New Friend

Last summer an old friend contacted me through Facebook.  He was actually my first boyfriend at age 14.  He was something special to me.  A few years after we'd been separated by a move my parents made to Alaska (from KY where this guy lives), we got back in touch with each other over the course of a couple of weekends.  Then no contact for over 23 years.

Then he found me and we struck up a conversation, had many text messages and spoke on the phone.  I tried to learn as much about his current life as possible since I am always curious and wanted to know everything.  I thought he was just a private person when he didn't share much.  We flirted but it was always in an innocent and familiar way and never crossed the line of being inappropriate.

Then one day, he crossed the line.  He wanted a nude picture.  I don't care if I was model-perfect, he wasn't going to get a nude picture of me then or ever.  I'm married, honor my marriage vows and have a whole lot more respect for myself than that.  The conversations wained after my refusal and reminder that I was married. 

Fast forward several months. I got a call from his wife accusing me of trying to take her husband....etc. etc.  None of which was true but she was over the top angry because she'd discovered my number and a couple of emails.  Nothing inappropriate was said to him but to her, having gone through this with him in the past, thought he was cheating with me.  I don't blame her for her anger and even offered for her to speak to my husband if she wanted even more confirmation that nothing was going on.

She and I talked that evening for three hours.  A lot was cleared and straightened out, and I found out many areas where he'd simply lied to me.  I was hurt and angry at him.  Why would he do that? 

Since then, she and I have been texting on and off.  It doesn't seem as though she has anyone in her "real" life that she can confide in since he's a well known policeman in the very small town where they live.  She's basically dealing or not dealing with this alone.  I offered to help.

I have a new friend.  If I hadn't met her this way and I met her under different circumstances, I'd like her and want to be her friend.  Isn't it wierd?  She is very sweet and is a lot like me.  We've had similar experiences and share a love of fashion etc.

I hope that we can build this friendship in spite of her stupid husband.  He's completely off my radar and out of my life and I'd really rather not to talk about him at all.  I like her.  We'll see how it goes.