Lies

What do you do when someone you trust more than anyone else in the world lies to you?   Is the admission of the lie well after the fact diminish the attempt to reconcile the facts? 

I wish I knew.  Someone very close to me lied about something that if revealed as the truth in the beginning, wouldn't have warranted judgment from me.  The lie was really so minute that I'd probably waxed over the real fact but to inquire about the overall event.  I am not a close-minded person nor do I hold people up for judgment when they've done something even they deem unscrupulous.  I don't operate that way, especially with a close friend.  I've been known to say "Well, that's not what I would have done," but never would I tell them it was the wrong thing to do. 

I shouldn't allow this to completely cloud the bigger picture of our friendship but the idea of lying about such a small detail (at least to me when the bigger picture represents the real essence of this event and not this small detail), but I can't help it.  If you'll lie about such a small issue (at least to me it's small) then you'll have no trouble lying about bigger, more important details.  I don't lie, period.  I have been lied to so much in my life that I can't stand liars or to even lie, a little.  I guess that's why this bothers me so much. 

It doesn't help that it was glossed over about the lie with an excuse of feeling self-concious and ashamed.  Really?  If it's something you have lie about then it isn't a good thing.  If you believe in what you're doing, what you've said or your actions, then there is no reason to lie, right?  Tarnishing a good relationship with a lie creates suspicion and future moments of wondering if what's being said is real or not.  Add the fact that most events aren't being shared to the lie, and I have to seriously consider the friendship's validity and meaning.

Saddens me really.